Looking Beyond the Titles: Finding Yourself in 2025

You’re a mother. A wife. A daughter. A CEO. A divorcee. A widow. A best friend. Maybe you’re the glue that holds everything together or the one everyone calls when life falls apart. Titles—they come to us without warning, sometimes as gifts, other times as labels, and far too often, as burdens.

As the clock ticks toward 2025, I’ve been thinking a lot about who I am beyond the roles I play and the names I’ve been given. What would happen if we stripped it all away? If we set down every title and asked ourselves the harder question: Who am I when no one is looking?

If we’re honest, most of us have no idea.

We wear these titles like armor, like proof of our existence. “I’m a good mother because my kids are thriving.” “I’m a successful businesswoman because my calendar is full.” “I’m a faithful wife because I stayed, even when it hurt.” But what happens when the kids leave home? When the business slows down? When the marriage ends?

We’re left staring in the mirror at someone we don’t recognize—someone who’s been buried under years of performing, achieving, and surviving.

This year, I want to challenge you (and myself) to go deeper. To stop letting these titles define us and start asking God to reveal who we are beneath them. Because here’s the truth: Your identity was never meant to be built on something that could change, end, or fail.

You are more than what you do. You are more than the pain you’ve endured. You are more than the roles you’ve played in other people’s stories.

And I get it—letting go of titles is scary. They make us feel safe, tethered, and seen. But when we let them dictate our worth, we give them too much power. They start to muddy the waters of what God says about us.

God never called you “just a mother” or “just a wife” or “just a widow.” He called you His. He called you chosen, set apart, fearfully and wonderfully made. And here’s the kicker: None of those things depend on what you’ve achieved or what you’ve lost.

So, what if in 2025, we decided to let go of the striving? What if we peeled back the layers and allowed ourselves to simply be? To sit with God and say, “I don’t know who I am without these titles, but I trust You to show me.”

I’ll warn you—it’s going to get messy. When you start untangling yourself from the expectations and labels, you’re going to feel exposed. Vulnerable. You might even grieve the person you thought you had to be. But in that space, God can do His most beautiful work.

He can remind you of who you were before the world told you who to be.

He can take the pieces of your broken identity and reshape them into something whole.

And He can fill you with the kind of confidence that doesn’t come from titles but from knowing who you are in Him.

So, let’s make 2025 the year we stop defining ourselves by what we’ve done or what’s been done to us. Let’s look beyond the titles and ask God to remind us who we really are. Because when we do, we’ll discover something incredible: We’ve been His masterpiece all along.