Navigating Your Trauma Response: Finding Peace in the Storm
Let me tell you about this woman named Alana. She’s the kind of person everybody leans on. You know, the one who’s always there with a solution, a prayer, or just a listening ear. But what most people don’t see is what’s going on behind her smile.
Life has been throwing punches at Alana left and right. She’s lost both her parents, been through a tough divorce, and even had a close friend betray her. And as if that wasn’t enough, she’s been rejected by people she thought would always have her back. Oh, and her health? Her body’s been acting like her worst enemy. It’s been one thing after another, and all of it has left her feeling like she’s walking around with open wounds that never quite heal.
Now, imagine this: every time Alana’s phone rings, her heart races. She’s bracing herself for bad news because, let’s be real, that’s all it seems to be lately. If a family member she hasn’t talked to in a while calls, her breath gets shallow, and her mind goes to the worst-case scenario. “What’s wrong now?” she thinks. And when she tries to mend fences with people who’ve hurt her, it doesn’t always go well. Instead of bringing peace, her words sometimes come out harsh and defensive because that’s what happens when you’re living from a place of pain.
Alana doesn’t mean to lash out. It’s not like she wants to be angry or suspicious. But when you’ve been hurt so many times, it’s hard not to protect yourself. She’s always ready for the next blow, even if it never comes.
One night, Alana was journaling—just trying to make sense of it all—when she came across a verse that hit her differently: “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” (Matthew 11:28). It felt like God was sitting right there with her, whispering to her heart, “Give it to Me. Let Me carry it.”
That moment didn’t magically fix everything, but it was a start. Alana began to realize that all the weight she was carrying—the fear, the anger, the sadness—wasn’t hers to hold onto. She started to let God into those places she’d been guarding so tightly.
It wasn’t easy. Healing never is. But she took small steps. She prayed before answering the phone, asking God to help her handle whatever news came her way. She learned to pause during tough conversations, giving herself a moment to breathe instead of reacting. And she started to show herself the same grace she’d been giving everyone else.
Alana’s story might sound familiar to you. Maybe you’ve been there too—feeling like life keeps knocking you down, and you’re always waiting for the next hit. Let me tell you something: You’re not alone, and you’re not crazy. Trauma has a way of making us feel like we have to fight or flee all the time. But you don’t have to stay there.
The Bible says, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” (Psalm 34:18). That’s not just a pretty verse; it’s a promise. God sees you. He knows the weight you’re carrying, and He’s ready to take it if you let Him.
So here’s the question: Will you let Him? Will you trust Him with the pain, the fear, the unanswered questions? Healing won’t happen overnight, but step by step, breath by breath, and prayer by prayer, you can find your way back to peace. You’re not disqualified. You’re not too broken. And you’re definitely not alone.